tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753103802589215885.post335539269242817822..comments2021-03-20T00:30:03.169-04:00Comments on Parental Alienation Syndrome: Letting Go: When Alienated Parents Give UpSusan Ann Arendseehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07612951904849034854noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753103802589215885.post-7193566020388250532018-03-20T16:13:47.562-04:002018-03-20T16:13:47.562-04:00I am 68 and divorced my wife in 1986 because of he...I am 68 and divorced my wife in 1986 because of her violent, epic rages that she would immerse herself in for days at a time. She would tell my children how worthless I was and use any excuse to batter me. Over the past 20 years my four children have told me that they will not "engage" with me. Interesting new application for the term "engage". The psyche community has now adopted a term that seems to legitimize the children's refusal to even talk to dad. One daughter is now in her late 40s. At mom's house there were no limits for my children. At 19 my daughter moved in with a 32 year old ex con who served time in NY prison and in a CA prison. My daughter became HIV positive 9 months after moving in with him and diagnosed with AIDS several months after that. My other three children wanted to hang out with my oldest daughter because she was using drugs and "cool". They are all angry at me because I told them not to be around my oldest daughter and her ex con boyfriend. Mom began calling my oldest daughter a hero for surviving AIDS and the drugs. I was told that the boyfriend died but who knows. My two younger daughters experienced unwanted pregnancies. Guess what? You are footing the tab for her HIDS treatment and the fallout created by teen pregnancies. My son asked me if I could give him $20,000 to pay off his credit cards. He was taught that there were no limits and he took them literally. I told him I did not have any money (I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at the age of 51 and my immune system has failed). He has not returned my calls or emails for the past 8 years. One daughter is now a christian. She was proud to tell me that the bible says that she has to honor me as her father. That means that she has to send me a christmas card and a birthday card and that she is not obligated to do anything else. In the past 30 years or more she has never called me. There is no giving up. It is just taking the message that they do not want to have a relationship with you or be a part of their lives and moving on. I documented the process that my ex used to alienate my children from me and would like to publish it as a case study. If it were to become a case study it could be cited in Court to support other men when they are fighting for visitation. Because of the MS I have some limitations and would like to work with someone who would be a co author of the case study.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13251309565004318558noreply@blogger.com